Unity Without Exclusion: Growing Our Energy Capacity in Love, Action, and True Abundance

By Chris “Yellow Owl” Albaugh

Many speak of unity and unconditional love as if they are already the air they breathe. But life has a way of testing those words. When someone who proclaims unity lives in division with family, friends, or partners, it doesn’t automatically make them a fraud. It reveals the distance between the truth they long for and the truth they live.

That gap is not failure. It is the living field of transformation, the exact place where ideals either stretch into reality or remain untested theories.

The Mirror We Cannot Escape

Our closest relationships are more than companions on the path; they are mirrors polished by friction. They reveal the parts of us still unsettled, reactive, or guarded.

If unity is truly inclusive, then every place we withhold it, even with “good reason”, points to an inner divide. The person we’ve distanced from may be carrying the very piece of ourselves we have yet to embrace.

Unity is not the absence of disagreement. It’s the choice to remember someone’s humanity even when we cannot reconcile their choices. And unconditional love doesn’t mean tolerating harm it means refusing to let resentment lock the heart’s door, even if we must step outside for a season.

Magali’s Story Born Into vs. Taught

I met Magali during a gathering at his sweatlodge. He was born in the city, far from the mountains, rivers, and sacred places of his Cherokee ancestry. His early life was shaped more by concrete streets, Nuns and neon signs than by the songs, stories, and ceremonies of his people.

Magali wasn’t born into the daily rhythms of Cherokee life. He was born into a world that had been built on top of it. His connection to heritage wasn’t passed to him naturally by the flow of community life; it was something he had to seek, question, and choose for himself.

As an adult, he began to reclaim his culture. He learning the language, listening to elders, walking the land with the same reverence his ancestors once did. The teachings were offered to him in words and rituals, but he quickly saw the difference between learning about unity and living unity.

In the city, unity had often been an idea something discussed in workshops, rallies, or spiritual circles. In the Cherokee ways he was reclaiming, unity was embedded in life itself: how you greeted the day, how you shared food, how you honored the earth, how you made decisions that considered the seventh generation.

Magali’s journey taught me this: We are all born into something, but that doesn’t mean we are taught the ways of connection, gratitude, and unity. And when we are taught without the living example around us, those values can feel like fragile ideals beautiful in theory, but difficult to embody when tested.

Reclaiming what we weren’t born into is powerful work. It requires the same practices we need for unity itself. Awareness to see what’s missing, gratitude for the path we’re walking now, and the willingness to grow our capacity to live what we once only knew as words.

True Abundance Beyond the Primitive Instinct

Unity and abundance are inseparable. Abundance is not simply the overflow of resources or wealth. It is the shared field of possibility that multiplies when we choose to walk together.

When divided, we operate as primitive animals in human form ruled by survival instinct, competition, and fear of loss. When united, we rise into the higher design of humanity compassion, cooperation, co-creation, and trust that giving strengthens the whole.

• Wisdom is exchanged that one mind alone could not discover.
• Doors open for each other that fear would keep locked.
• Solutions emerge that no single voice could speak into existence.

This is true abundance, the kind that grows the more it is shared.

GAUGE A Living Map for Unity and Abundance

The GAUGE Your Life framework turns these values into lived reality. It is a map for expanding capacity in both the formless (inner) and formed (outer) realms so that unity becomes more than a spoken ideal.

Gratitude — The Bridge of Connection

Gratitude is not a polite “thank you”  it is an energetic bridge that closes distance even in conflict. It shifts our focus from scarcity to shared abundance, humanizes those we struggle with, and keeps our hearts open to possibility.

Dirt and Harvest: One spring, my neighbor noticed I was struggling to get my garden started. Without me asking, he hauled in rich soil from his farm to help me build the foundation I needed. That single act turned planting into possibility. Later that season, as my garden flourished, I shared baskets of tomatoes, peppers, and herbs with him and his family. The exchange wasn’t transactional, it was an unspoken recognition that when we give freely, the return is woven into the relationship itself.

Practice: Begin and end each day naming three things you appreciate, especially in people you find difficult. Speak it aloud when possible.

Awareness The Root of All Change

Awareness is the lens that turns life into a teacher. Without it, we repeat patterns blindly. With it, we see the threads connecting our inner state to the way we speak, act, and relate.

Magali’s reclamation of culture was an act of awareness seeing what was missing and daring to step toward it, even without guarantees. Awareness always begins with seeing clearly, but it only changes us when we choose to act on what we see.

Practice: Pause often and ask, What am I feeling? Where do I feel it in my body? What is this feeling asking for? Let awareness precede action.

Unity Inclusion Without Exception

Unity is not sameness. It is holding space for difference without losing connection. The parts of ourselves we reject will always reappear in others.

Magali’s path showed that unity is easier to live when it’s the air you breathe from birth, but for those who must reclaim it later, the journey requires intentional practice, forgiveness, and humility.

Practice: Visualize those you feel most divided from as children seeking the same love and safety you desire. Keep the heart’s door unlocked, even if it stays closed for now.

Growth Expanding Capacity

Growth is not just improvement. It is the expansion of what we can hold without breaking. It lives in the tension between comfort and challenge.

Practice: Have one conversation each week where your goal is understanding, not persuasion. Meet your triggers with curiosity, not defense.

Energy The Fuel of Transformation

Energy is life force. Without it, principles remain concepts. With it, they become action.

Practice: Tend your energy like a sacred fire. Through breathwork, rest, movement, nature, and creative expression. Learn to discern between depletion from avoidance and the fatigue of meaningful effort.

From Ideal to Embodiment

It is easy to say “we are one” in calm waters. Unity becomes real when storms rise. When betrayal stings, when misunderstandings linger, when discomfort tempts us to retreat.

If we claim unconditional love, our work is to expand it where it has been most tested.
If we claim unity, our work is to include those we’ve left out.
If we claim abundance, we must share it. Trusting it will multiply.

When we reconcile our inner divides, let gratitude fuel awareness, and let unity be anchored in both formless and formed effort, we stop talking about love and become its living evidence. And in that becoming, we rise beyond primitive survival into the co-creation of a shared future worth walking toward together.

Author Bio: Chris “Yellow Owl” Albaugh is the founder of Enhancing Your World and creator of the GAUGE Your Life method, guiding individuals toward emotional resilience, unity, and unconditional love through holistic practices and ancient wisdom.

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