The Cost Worth Paying

Participation, Purification, and the Life We Truly Desire

It was once said that if you are unwilling to downgrade your life for a few years to live the life you desire to live, then perhaps you care too much about how others see you.

There is wisdom in that statement.

Many people dream of a different life. Fewer are willing to release the comforts, identities, habits, expectations, and securities that keep them attached to the life they already know.

Yet as I reflected on this idea, I realized there is another layer.

The willingness to change our life is not simply about sacrificing comfort. It is about learning how we remain in relationship while allowing life to reveal what is truly aligned for the highest good of all, not just ourselves.

Many people think growth means cutting and telling people off.

Sometimes it does.

More often, it means changing how we participate.

The heart remains open.

The relationship remains possible.

Yet access to our time, energy, resources, and participation may change.

Not as punishment.

Not as revenge.

Not as judgment.

But as awareness.

When something is valued, appreciated, reciprocated, and cared for, it naturally expands through the complexities of life.

When it is continually overlooked, expected, or taken for granted, wisdom often invites us to participate differently.

The door remains open. The room simply changes.

The Float Tank and the Opportunity We Almost Missed

This understanding revealed itself to me recently through my relationship with my father.

The float tank at our recovery center broke.

For two days we worked side by side trying to solve the problem.

My father prioritized helping me. I watched him show up. I witnessed his willingness to put his things on hold as this was more important.

Afterward, I thanked him.

I thanked him not only for helping repair the tank but for all the times throughout my life he had shown up when I needed him.

I thanked him for helping at the center. I thanked him for the opportunity to spend time together. I even shared how much I enjoy doing things together, even when the task itself is not enjoyable.

His response surprised me.

He said he was so anxious about fixing the problem that he missed the experience entirely.

He was so focused on solving the issue and completing the task that he missed the very thing we had both often spoken about wanting more of: time together.

In that moment I saw something familiar.

How often do we become so focused on overcoming life’s challenges that we miss the life unfolding within them?

How often are we pursuing connection while overlooking the opportunities already present?

When the Relationship Is the Vision

The following day I made a choice.

For some time, I had created a standard in our relationship.

If my father needed help, he simply had to ask. I was willing. But I would no longer automatically show up whenever there was work to do, because how I felt taken for granted. If I had the free time, motivation, and sense that it aligned with the larger vision I was building. I would be there.

What I realized was that perhaps it had always been part of the larger vision.

Not the tasks itself.

The relationship.

The participation.

The opportunity to practice being together no matter what has happening.

The opportunity to grow.

The opportunity to witness one another beyond roles and responsibilities.

What appeared to be a distraction from the vision was often the vision expressing itself.

Purification Is Remembering What Matters

This week we will gather with Mamo Lorenzo for a week long Sentata focused on purification.

As I prepare for this experience, I find myself reflecting on the life I desired as a child.

A life of exploration. A life of learning from different cultures. A life of sitting with elders and the wonders of this life. A life of discovering different ways of relating to reality, consciousness, nature, and one another.

A life where doors are opened so others may also experience belonging, healing and harmony through shared experiences.

A life where people from different paths can gather around a common fire and remember they are part of one human family.

The vision was never only about building a business.

It was never only about programs, services, memberships, events, or recovery. These are doorways.

The vision has always been relationship.

Relationship with ourselves. Relationship with one another. Relationship with the Earth. Relationship with the mystery of life itself.

And perhaps purification is not merely removing what is impure.

Perhaps purification is remembering what matters.

Allowing time, space, and life itself to refine our hearts, our minds, our behaviors, and our participation.

Learning to remain connected without becoming entangled.

Learning to love without needing control, fixing or improving it.

Learning to stay willing without carrying what another must learn to carry themselves by offering to hold it for a bit for them.

Participation Is the Path

As we walk through the always presence of this moment relating in all directions, life continually reveals what is valued.

Who is willing to show up?

Who is willing to learn?

Who is willing to repair?

Who is willing to grow?

And perhaps most importantly, are we willing to see that the opportunities we seek are often already present within the relationships, challenges, and moments we have been given?

The life I wanted as a child is not somewhere in the future.

It is here.

In the work. In the people. In the lessons. In the participation. In the willingness.

In the opportunity to belong to this human tribe and contribute, together, to the well being of all that is born from our Mother Earth.

Where in your life have you mistaken a temporary challenge for a distraction from your vision?

What if the relationship, the lesson, or the opportunity to participate is not separate from the vision but the very path that continues to lead you there, and at the same time never actually comes for it is the next step?

Take a moment to reflect on what is already present and asking for your willingness, appreciation, and participation today.

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